(ugh, sorry, having some problem with the computer--hope this time it works)
Thanks for playing, but um, no. First, you are waking every 2-4 hours no matter HOW you feed your baby for the first three months. Then it stays about the same until around a year when it's every 4-6 hours. That is, if you are a decent, caring parent.
Second, I know PLENTY of moms who have very healthy sex lives on that schedule. You just grow up and get over pre-conditioned sleeping habits. I had a sleeping disorder for my entire life until about 2 months into being a mother. Now it's gone, I sleep better than I ever have and yes, the beginning is exhausting, but it's exhausting whether you're a good parent or a selfish neglectful one. Doesn't mean it has to be a negative experience.
Next, LAM varies from woman to woman. I only had it 5 months despite EBFing (the only actual requirement--EBFing meaning exclusive breastfeeding--no bottles, no solids, no other liquids, just breastmilk from the tap--which all babies are supposed to eat for at least 6 months to insure a secure immune system and prevent damage to the intestines, which are open for the first six months), but that's probably because I had surgery--it mucked up my biological rhythm. I have a friend who had to take a supplement to return her fertility because she was trying to conceive and still had LAM going, even though they were down to only a few nursing sessions a day (around 22 months).
By the way, cosleeping reduces SIDS and does nothing to stop anyone from having sex. Have an imagination why don't you :-p For crap's sake, in case you haven't noticed, I AM pregnant (for the third time since Lilly was born) and she nurses 8-12 times a day and we cosleep (she sleeps through the night, now, which I'm glad to have that time before the next baby comes... not that I can, I've gotta get up and pee every couple hours, lol).
Don't knock something you've only partially read up on and haven't tried. Especially when it's something important to one of your friends (not the LAM, but the parenting style that LAM goes with).
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Date: 2008-07-29 03:33 am (UTC)Thanks for playing, but um, no. First, you are waking every 2-4 hours no matter HOW you feed your baby for the first three months. Then it stays about the same until around a year when it's every 4-6 hours. That is, if you are a decent, caring parent.
Second, I know PLENTY of moms who have very healthy sex lives on that schedule. You just grow up and get over pre-conditioned sleeping habits. I had a sleeping disorder for my entire life until about 2 months into being a mother. Now it's gone, I sleep better than I ever have and yes, the beginning is exhausting, but it's exhausting whether you're a good parent or a selfish neglectful one. Doesn't mean it has to be a negative experience.
Next, LAM varies from woman to woman. I only had it 5 months despite EBFing (the only actual requirement--EBFing meaning exclusive breastfeeding--no bottles, no solids, no other liquids, just breastmilk from the tap--which all babies are supposed to eat for at least 6 months to insure a secure immune system and prevent damage to the intestines, which are open for the first six months), but that's probably because I had surgery--it mucked up my biological rhythm. I have a friend who had to take a supplement to return her fertility because she was trying to conceive and still had LAM going, even though they were down to only a few nursing sessions a day (around 22 months).
By the way, cosleeping reduces SIDS and does nothing to stop anyone from having sex. Have an imagination why don't you :-p For crap's sake, in case you haven't noticed, I AM pregnant (for the third time since Lilly was born) and she nurses 8-12 times a day and we cosleep (she sleeps through the night, now, which I'm glad to have that time before the next baby comes... not that I can, I've gotta get up and pee every couple hours, lol).
Don't knock something you've only partially read up on and haven't tried. Especially when it's something important to one of your friends (not the LAM, but the parenting style that LAM goes with).